At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.
If mindfulness has a purpose, it is to find calm. It is the way back to our center, to the place of inner peace that lies within us all.
This is not an easy path. Most of the time mindfulness will only make us aware of how far we have wandered from our center. We will see the shadows of suffering cast by the distractions, bad habits and addictions that have grown within us.
But until we recognize and accept our life as it is, we cannot begin the journey back to our center, to our place of inner calm.
Mindfulness is like a bowl, it is both what the bowl is and what the bowl does.
The bowl is nonjudgmental awareness, an ability to watch our thoughts, words and actions without judging them, to become an impartial observer of ourselves.
What the bowl does is to hold our thoughts, words, and actions in this state of nonjudgmental awareness and allows them to marinate.
Meditation is the intentional practice of mindfulness where we sit without distraction for a set period of time. However, this formal practice of meditation can be both a barrier and a limitation in developing a mindfulness practice.
After all we are human and the routine of a busy working day leaves few of us with either the time or the inclination for formal meditation practice.
Instead we can aim for a few nutritional mindfulness snacks throughout the day. Not only will this help us to develop mindfulness, but it gives us a few precious moments to pause, refocus and allow the dust of the day to settle.
In a busy and demanding working day I have found three simple mindfulness practices.
Commas, full stops, and carriage returns. If every day is a page, then it has no definition without commas to add a pause, full stops to take a break, and carriage returns to end one activity and begin another.
We actively need to punctuate our day if we are to prevent it from becoming one long mad blur. I visit calm.com a couple of times a day while I’m at work This takes me for a few wonderful minutes to a distant beach to watch the sun setting, or to dawn in a misty forest to listen to the dawn chorus.
A Walk. There is no better way to draw a line under one part of the day and prepare ourselves for the next than a walk.
Something happens when we step outside the door, context returns and we become part of something bigger than ourselves. Perhaps it’s the sound of the world getting on with its own business without a care for us. Whatever it is, it usually brings perspective and well-being back into our lives.
A deep breathe. In yoga and meditation, the breath lies at the center of mindfulness. We have access to it at any time and in any situation. In the words of Thich Nhat Hahn, “When we breathe in a miracle happens, we stop the thinking. This is the miracle of mindfulness”.
These three simple practices all have one thing in common, they create a pause in the day, a gap in which we can fill our bowl of mindfulness with precious moments.
It doesn’t matter how we develop mindfulness. What matters is that we find our own way back to our center, to reclaim the inner calm that nourishes our very soul.
What path do you take?